Asserting what you want and don’t want 
Many of us are afraid to ask for what we want in a relationship for fear  or either not getting it or of having the other person give it to them  out of obligation. Asking for what you want is an act of trust. You are  taking a step into the unknown – not knowing how the other person will  respond. 
Here are 10 tips for asserting your wants 
http://amikaplan.net/lists/top10.html
