Is it more honest to keep a promise or to tell someone that you have changed your mind? This article shines some light on this.
"One evening while having dinner with friends, I began complaining about something I had agreed to do but that I no longer thought was the best decision for me. In the name of "keeping my word," though, I felt I had to trudge through it. Suzanne looked at me and said something that honestly no one had ever told me: "Girl, you know you have the right to change your mind."
"I went silent. As the words reverberated through me, I slowly said the phrase to myself over and over, trying to embrace what it would feel like to actually accept that principle as part of my conscious living.
"Before then, I hadn’t thought of changing my mind as even possible. What about honor, commitment, staying the course?
More at:
http://www.donshewey.com/2001_zine/changing_your_mind.html
In Getting Real we learn how to Revise an earlier statement. (Getting Real Chapter 8, page 139)
Saying No to get what you want easier
Apr 29
posted by Michael Smith in
Sandbox, Getting Real
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It was great to see so many Sandboxers at Beltane! Especially to see David H wizing around in his electric chair while Gail tried on various sexy high heels. :-) We also went deep into boundaries at the Sandbox Explorations workshop at Beltane - practicing saying No, asking for what we want, how to clarify requests and ways to ask "difficult" questions about sexuality. I think that the attendees were more connected at the end of the workshop and more empowered too! I want to bring that energy to the gathering this week. At 8pm after dinner we will hold a short practice of saying No and asking for what we want. I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.
