This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn about CBT - "cock and ball torture", or maybe for you "cock and ball teasing" or "cock and ball tickling". It all depends on how far to your edge you want to go. As always it needs to be Safe, Sane and Consensual. We want every one to go home with the same number of healthy parts that they arrived with! Some of the fun may be in mind play and role play. An active imagination is always good for BDSM play!

Why do CBT? The penis is very sensitive so you can get a lot of effect from (relatively) gentle bondage and discipline. The testicles are often left out of play, so new sensations can be experienced when the balls come into play. Teabagging (ball sucking) vs cocksucking come to mind. To many people the balls are a sacred or taboo area, so teasing them can bring up all kinds of interesting reactions. Some in the BDSM community speculate that torturing a man's genitals is directly related to sexual control issues while others argue that torturing a male's sex organs addresses the ego. I would imagine that each man has his own reason for desiring this type of torture. In some earlier cultures, a man's testicles were held as being very sacred and, in some instances, oaths were given while holding a man's testicles in the hand. And, in some countries, squeezing a man's testicles could lead to the perpetrator losing their hand. Fortunately that is not the case here!

What toys might be used for CBT? The hands, nails, lips and teeth are good places to start providing sensation. Silk, fur and leather may feel good to rub with. Rope or rubber to tie and constrict might be what you are into. Cock rings of rubber or metal or chastity devices turn some on. Dress up your cock and balls with a stocking. Or maybe a good squeeze is what is required in a perspex vice... Clothes pins cause intense sensations. Perhaps you want to shave the hair off for more tactile sensation. Heat and ice give their own set of sensations. We will leave fire out of the mix for this evening (but watch out for a fire play session in October...) and of course we just did a hot wax play Sandbox last month. So it will be heating pads and ice if you like temperature play on you manhood.

You don't have to come with a partner for this event and if you are female and want to pack your own cock and balls to be played with that is cool too. Or just come along  to watch and learn. If you want to be a demo bottom for this event email me off list.

More info on CBT at
http://www.malesubmission.com/faq/cbt.htm

The playshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn about manifesting what we want in life, going beyond the law of attraction.  Is there something you want to create in your life? Have you tried the law of attraction (as popularized in the movie The Secret) with no luck? Are you frustrated in attracting the right relationship? Or job? Or health? Then learn some new techniques for creating the abundant life you want.
We will learn some ideas from TUT messages from the universe guy Mike Dooley and his book Leveraging the Universe. Here is what Mike has to say

"I used to think everyone knew something that I didn't. They, like me, weren't aware of what it was, and they didn't seem to notice that I was without it, but to me the difference was painful. I felt awkwardly different, which led to a burning desire to question the things that most people seem to take for granted. A desire to know what life is about, which I have now largely satisfied, making the price of my sensed alienation small in comparison.

I didn't realize it at the time, but my desire to "know" had put me on a path of inner knowing; or better, my thinking was beginning to attract like thinking. It seemed my questions were slowly answering themselves, opening my eyes to the insights I now realize are latent within us all. I was never sure just when my "illuminations" took place until sometime after the fact, as if an intuitive knowing had been imparted when I wasn't paying close attention.

By the time I was twenty, I had deduced that we were not just here accidentally, nor were we set adrift by some angry god who would judge, condemn, and sentence us before we even understood what was going on. I believed that through thinking, we are creators, the joyful gladiators of the Universe revered for daring the ultimate dare; here of our own choosing, each of us for our own extraordinarily unique reasons, foremost among which is for the sheer adventure of doing so. And if there was ever proof that I was on the right track, the fact that I now spend part of every day writing for "the Universe" is it.
>From http://www.tut.com/resources/notes/

The workshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

Here is some more about manifesting from the TUT website product page. It resonants with me that we don't just do what we want, we don't just be what we want. We need to do both.

When it comes to living the life of one's dreams, there are those who think they must go it alone; that they must be the early bird, know all the right people, and succeed by the sweat of their brow - and they carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.

Then there are those who have read all the books, done all the workshops, and concluded that it's simply a matter of surrendering to a loving, conspiring Universe so that their life might be transformed by its magic - and they silently wonder why it hasn't.

The truth is, neither are we alone, nor is knowing about the Universe and its magic enough to manifest change. The first conclusion is as self-sabotaging as it is sad, and the second is a bit like knowing exactly where the secret treasure is buried, yet never bothering to dig for it. Instead, the trick lies in knowing the difference between what one can, should and must do, versus what one can, should and must delegate to an all wise and capable Universe. Our part is the easy part.

We need only provide the spark to light the Universe's fire; to hoist up our sails so that they can be filled with its magical winds. Yet without offering these token efforts, without assisting in these modest ways, not only do we contradict our wish to live as fully as possible, but we slide ever further away from an infinite grace that tirelessly strives to sweep us off our feet, surround us with friends, and create the life we most want.

Leveraging the Universe and Engaging the Magic is about using the gifts of thought, word, and deed to harness this grace. It's about doing the least to get the most. Learning what "the truth" is, and how to live it, so that the kingdom, the power, and the glory can be revealed before your very eyes, as you discover your holy place in creation - as a creator, yourself.

Slayer of dragons, matador of time and space, rightful heir to heaven on earth, it's time to be living the life of your dreams.

   1.  Understanding your Relationship to the Universe and
      the Magic
   2. Choosing Your Path and Charting a Course
   3. Creating a Plan
   4. Being Vigilant with Your Thoughts, Words and Deeds
   5. Aligning Your Beliefs with the Life of your Dreams
   6. Beginning It!
   7. Adjusting Your Sails, a.k.a. Trouble-Shooting

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we immerse ourselves in chant Savitri Khalsa and feel the peaceful connection to our souls. Do you feel an emptiness in your heart sometimes? Are you feeling down? Have you missed feeling a soul connection with spirit and others? Then experience joy in your heart as we chant sacred healing words.

Savitri Khalsa will lead you into a beautiful state of bliss!

Some of you may know Savitri as Leslie Betz, wife of Bhagwhant Singh.
She says "I am called to help and serve people as a healer.
Radiating Light Healing and Arts is the name of my business.
I can provide pain and stress relief. Teach one to be more relaxed and
calm in your mind. Help you find more joy and freedom in your life."
You can reach Savitri at (540) 327-3392 or skradiatinglight at gmail dot com

The chanting begins after dinner at 8pm. I invite you to join us,
though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn how to massage our bodies with massage balls. I have some different size and texture balls for us to play with. They are great at getting into tight spaces and helping shoulder pain, back ache, hip pains and neck issues. I have used for sciatica and also I have some small knobbly balls that are great on the feet!

Often times we hold emotional issues in tense muscles, so releasing the muscle can help you move forward in your life. I will have a copy of
Louise Hayes book You Can Heal Your Life handy so that you can learn what that particular body issue might have to say to you.

So if you have some body tension and would like to relax it come join us for a late summer ball massage!

The playshop begins after dinner at 8pm. I invite you to join us,
though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we explore hot wax play. There is something erotic about hot wax dripping onto your body - first overcoming the fear, the sting of the heat, then the spreading sensation as the wax cools and hardens. A crust forms on your skin, protecting against the next wax drop, but also constricting movement. You might start on the chest or belly, but more daring is hot wax on the nipples. When you are done the wax is removed with a blunt knife and ice, giving you a permanent body mold.

Safety is very important with hot wax and we will control the temperature of the wax to avoid burning. Using a crokpot to heat the wax with a thermometer to test it. Plus we will have ice on hand to cool things off if needed. A wise tip is for the pourer to test the wax on the back of their hand first before pouring on someone else.

The playshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we share making music together - jamming, playing, expressing. Do you want to get out of your head? Turn off your inner critic? Release some stress? Music is a great way to get out of our heads and relax into our hearts and bodies. When we improvise we let spirit play with us and through us.

I have a piano, drums, percussion. If you want bring a guitar, flute or other instrument. Or just bring your voice! You don't have to be musical to attend - just contribute how you chose. If you have some songs you have written this is the perfect time to share them. Or make up some chants to sing! Poetry on the fly fits in too. Dance and contact improv are good too. Let your inner spirit saw and share music with other spiritual beings in a human body.

The music begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn about our subconsious using Tarot. Tarot cards are an ancient tool for self-discovery. They help us access our unconscious minds and gain a deeper understanding of any issue we may face in our daily lives. They can aid us in uncovering choices that get hidden inside the stresses of our busy lives. But most of all, they are about free will and growth. Come to the Sandbox on August 4th and get a flavor of what the Tarot is all about. You'll have an opportunity to ask a question and interpret what the cards have to say.


Bev Hitchins has been reading the cards for five years and uses the Tarot as a tool in her work as a de-clutterer and home organizer. One article she has written was published in the American Tarot Association Journal: "Why do I have Clutter? How the Tarot Can Help You Understand Why You Have Clutter." She currently serves as co-facilitator of the Washington, DC, Tarot Society.

You can reach Bev at

• Telephone: 703.998.0880
• E-mail: info at alignyourlife.net
• Web http://www.alignyourlife.net

The workshop begins after dinner at 8pm. I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn how to release negativity from our lives. Do brooding negative thoughts and worries fill your mind making it hard to get things done? Do you seem to have a lot of friends who complain all the time? Is your job not satisfying your deeper desires? Is your health suffering? Then it might be time to look at releasing some negativity from your life!

We will do some exercises for releasing negativity and a ritual to drop depressing thoughts. We will share what works for us in bring positivity into our experience and learn new ways to be happy from the inside out. By the end of the evening your load will be lighter and you will have tools for staying that way! And given how external things are going on the planet in the lead up to 2012 this might be a life saving set of tools to have handy...

And as part of this process I invite everyone who attendees to do a one day media fast for the whole day Wednesday - no radio news, no morning show, no newspaper, no internet news, no TV news, no news magazines, no twitter. Just for one day. Don't worry the planet won't stop turning if you don't do news for one day and you can always read the Wednesday paper the next day if you want to. I used to be a news junkie so I know what a challenge this can be. So get some support, find some relaxing music to listen to instead of the radio or actually have a connectful conversation with other people ;-) In my experience if anything "really big" happens other people will be talking about it - you won't miss out. Or I should say that your heart won't miss out - you ego might start wondering what to do with itself - but just remind it who is in charge and do something different for yourself like a walk in the park, some stretches or a nap.

The workshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we learn deep listening beyond mirroring. Have you ever being really and deeply listened to - where you knew in your heart that the other person got you? Or do you often feel misunderstood or unheard or interrupted? Would you like to learn the steps to be able to listen deeply to your partner(s), validate their experience and empathize with them to co-create a deeper connection? Do you want to prevent silly arguments from spouting up in your work place? Then come learn how to deeply listen. We will start with mirroring but then quickly go much deeper into listening to the other. A cheat sheet will be provided so you can take these skills home or to work.

Deep listening occurs when your mind is quiet. Your thoughts are flowing rather than crowding your mind with distractions, interpretations, judgments, conclusions, or assumptions. Your mind is open, curious, interested -- as though you were hearing this person for the first time. Deep listening applies not only to communication with another, but also to listening to ourselves and to life in general. The goal of deep listening is to hear beyond the words of the other person and yourself, to the essence of what the words and feelings are pointing to. Your mind and heart are joined in union -- you are listening wholeheartedly.

Yes deep listening takes time up front but it save time later on when you don't misunderstand what your partner wants or why a co-worker is angry and sabotaging your project. So many time wasting games and upsets can be avoided when we really hear what is in people's hearts and heads. Sometimes action is needed after listening, other times just the act of being really heard is the best balm for the situation.

You can bring a partner or partner up with someone else for the exercises. It will all be done in a safe space

The workshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

This workshop is based on a workshop I attended at Summer Solstice by Mata Mandir Kaur Kalsha who is a therapist and couples councilor based in Herdon VA. She also leads wonderful yoga communication workshops. You can reach her at mmkhalsa at version dot net or 703-887-2111

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This Wednesday Sandbox gathering we look at the 9th wave of the Mayan Calendar (Unity Consciousness) which we are now entering the pre-wave on on July 17-18 2010 . You may have noticed more turbulence in your world over the past year - people changing jobs, a move to heart-based living, financial crises, political earthquakes, more unconditional love connections and a rise in fear based and repressive measures by those in control.

The acts of servitude, manipulation and disempowerment by those who wish to overpower others come from the false belief in separation and non-equality. In its lowest form it is expressed as the lust for power and wealth, “tyranny” at the expense of humanity and the Earth. This is a very unevolved dense consciousness, which will not make it through the vibrational lifting or awakening and healing process. They have devolved and are on the downward spiral of evolution falling further and further away from the ultimate power, which is love.

In the cosmic scheme of things they have no real power their only power comes from their ability to engage, control and manipulate the physical, which is less than 1% of the universe in which they live. No suit, tie, limo, castle, amount of people to dominate or amassed gold can fill the void or the addiction. In some cases they are engaged by the nonphysical yet it is of a disempowering nature eventually loosing their own personal power and connection to the soul and Creator.  In extreme cases it is called possession by regenerate forces. At the core of many of these tyrants you will find a child that was never loved, accepted or felt approved. They are seeking love acceptance and approval outside of self through others and material wealth yet they are always left empty and a nagging sense of dissatisfaction keeps arising. They still have the divine spark yet it is buried under layers of denial, fear and unworthiness yet they will be the last to acknowledge this. The light of truth will find even them in the days to come and many will fall on their knees in regret.

Both of these illusions as well as the fears, wounds and traumas are in the process of healing. Being aware of this process, feeling it and engaging it rather than running from it will create a quantum leap in evolution. We are seeing this in the macrocosm being played out as we speak. The polarities of the haves and have-nots are very apparent. The gross uneven dispersal of wealth, the unbridled greed, the corporate generated wars through false flag operations, the plagues of the war and disease profiteers have risen for all to see. They are being revealed as well as those behind these nepharious schemes for those who are awakening. The apocalypse is defined as the great uncovering and soon you will see all these past wars and plagues as outrageous as this seems were already on the books in a master plan. Not one of them was what it seemed nor what you were told by the mainstream media.  In this awakening and healing process you will see a complete unraveling, restructuring and in some cases collapse of the old system. There will be a movement back to courage and integrity, it will be seen in all facets of society and eventually there will be no more willing participants in actions which are harmful to humanity and the Earth. Those who have been a disservice to humanity and the Earth will have but one path and that is to serve in the highest and best good of the whole.

As more heal and awaken with this great wave you will begin to see incredible light beings and light ships. These are referred to in almost all cultures and faiths and were recorded in sacred doctrines, clay tablets, and temple walls. Dimensional gates or portals will begin opening during this process and a grand reunion with ancient ancestors, ultradimensional beings with technologies far beyond our wildest dreams will be making their presence known. With this presence the regenerate beings will tremble both physical and non physical. The Earth will shake, rumble, shift, rivers and oceans will loose their borders and the sun will also expand during this process withsolar flares and coronal mass ejections.  As we move closer to the galactic plane the grand tipping point Oct of 2011 this will all increase exponentially.

It is an incredible, awesome, exciting event the whole multiverse has come to witness and you have a front row seat. The only question is how are you going to participate, which polarity are you going to express and choose wisely because the immutable law of karma, action/reaction, and the downward spiral of disunity is coming to a close. It is time to choose, the awakening and healing of humanity and the Earth is well underway. Those on high are praying you choose to live in harmony with each other and the Earth for that is what the Earth has chosen. The reset button has been pushed and the original intent, Eden, a place where universal peace, love, joy and individual freedom and prosperity for all where each individual can excel to their highest potential is returning. It is time to leave behind the old ways and return to some of the most ancient of ways. Time to love honor and respect the Creator in all Creation.
(Received by James Gilliland, www.eceti.org www.bbsradio. com www.worldpuja. org
Author of Reunion with Source, Becoming Gods, The Ultimate Soul Journey. http://revolutionizingawareness.wordpress.com/2010/03/31/mayan-calendar-9th-wave-and-relationships-2012/

Additional points from http://www.calleman.com/content/articles/ninth_wave.htm

• The Mayan calendar is about you.
  
  
• According to the ancient Maya the creation of the universe is effected by nine waves.
  
  
• We are now approaching the end of the eighth wave and, on top of this, the activation of the ninth and highest level that will cap off the evolution of the universe.
  
  
• This ninth level of the universe is designed to generate unity consciousness.
  
  
• The manifestation of the unity consciousness brought by the ninth level will require an intention on the part of the human beings to co-create this.
  
  
• The Conscious Convergence, July 17-18, 2010, is for those that are willing to set the intention to create unity consciousness in the ninth wave of the Mayan calendar system.

The workshop begins after dinner at 8pm.  I invite you to join us, though as always what ever choice you make you will be honored in.

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